Wife refuses to cancel the anniversary getaway she planned for weeks after her husband’s sister announces a last-minute visit: ‘He said I was being selfish’

Should a family visit really come before plans you made with your spouse weeks ago?

When it comes to marriage, there’re multiple problems that can arise. One of them comes with the family of each one of them: some might have a closer relationship, while others can feel more distant. Needless to say, there’s always conflict over how much they prioritize their own family members. In this story, a wife planned a two-night anniversary getaway, but her husband wants to cancel because his sister said she was coming to visit.

I’m not going to be the one saying who’s right and who’s wrong. I’ll like to discuss the role of family in a couple.

In my personal case, I have a wonderful relationship with my in-laws. I text with them frequently and like to have a close relationship with them; I know it’s important for me and for my boyfriend. But one of my best friends can’t stand her in-laws. In her case, they are very demanding and needy, and she would not even consider canceling a gateway for them. I think I would.

It’s a very personal topic and has a lot to do with everyone’s upbringing. Because being in a relationship is not always only about the couple: everyone comes with their own baggage, and the spouse has to be more understanding about each unique situation. 

That being said, cancelling an already organized and paid weekend trip because the sister-in-law suddenly decides to come visiting, is a whole different story. There are other things that are involved and, of course, need to be considered as well in this whole situation. The husband is the one who has to face the strangest decision, because now he has to choose between his sister and his wife… and that’s not an easy choice.

If you ask me, I’m not sure what I would do. Of course I’d love to see my sister, but at the same time, I already have everything planned for that weekend, and I wouldn’t want to cancel it. Let’s just say I’m glad I’m not the one who has to make that call.