‘I’m sad, and disappointed, and angry. I feel dumb to have been impulsive and made these invitations’: Woman invites old friends she hasn’t seen in a while to her private wedding ceremony

Writing that you’re not looking to be the centre of attention in the middle of a paragraph complaining about not being the centre of attention is wild

It’s ok; we all want to be the centre of attention sometimes. As long as we’re open about how petty and childish it is, it’s freeing, and it might even be funny. If we try to hide it or claim some moral high ground, it becomes twisted.

It’s funny that this story is even about being the centre of negative attention. OP thinks that people aren’t calling her because they are deliberately rejecting her; the reason is probably much bleaker: they don’t think about her at all.

I think all that hurt and anger might be poorly directed at them. I think what’s really happening is that she is mad at herself for choosing to call those friends and not others who are really present in her life. Or maybe sad because she doesn’t really have those. That’s completely valid and also normal; once we grow into adulthood, we sometimes drift apart from people who used to be very important in our lives.

Weddings are an important part of some people’s lives, and they bring a lot of feelings and considerations to the surface. I would suggest stopping for a moment, re-evaluating her invitations, and choosing the people she feels comfortable and cherished with.

After all, it’s a night to celebrate her engagement and her and her future husband’s life. It’s never too late to uninvite people if they are going to make you feel bad. It’s your ceremony and an event to remember!

I wouldn’t think about it twice; even if it’s sketchy, even if people complain. Gossip will eventually subside, and the memories of your great wedding will remain! Go for it, uninvitation queen! Uninvite everyone and make a new, exciting list!